Thursday, August 2, 2012

Leaving A Narcissist


There is no punishment withheld by the Narcissist for the partner whose has finally decided to leave.  Literature I've read often refer to it as having an arm or leg cut off, an actual part of the narcissist's identity is destroyed.  So the extreme anger and entitlment roar as if the Narcissist's life were threatened.  Of course, there is no empathy for their victims, not a shred of understanding for the damage they are doing, or have done.  For them it's always the "other guy" who was wrong, and particularly wrong to leave.

My stbx narcissist, addict, verbal and emotional abuser will fight to the death for what is not his.  He made his claim to my very identity and all that I owned when he married me.  Today is the day of reckoning as he views it.  There is no true remorse for his actions, not a shred of  repentance for all that he destroyed through selfishness, addiction and so many lies. There is only what was mine, now his.


He is punishing me for his sins. It's astounding.  It's evil.




"When we forgive evil we do not excuse it, we do not tolerate it, we do not smother it. We look the evil full in the face, call it what it is, let its horror shock and stun and enrage us, and only then do we forgive it."


lewis b smedes




1 comment:

  1. Wow. You make this so much about you. But all in the wrong areas. Things control you when you allow them to. GIve your love to something and watch how it controls you. Hate something and watch as you do things you ordinarily would not. Once you cut the ties that bind, you let go any emotional attachment and see your narcissists for what he is, then you will be free. This is all about him and his actions that control the hatred in you. The resentment in you. Let go and watch what happens.

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